The Ideology of Bitches
Posted by Jia at Sunday, June 15, 2008 12:40 PM and is filed under uncategorized 
I swear....people get on my LAST nerve.
I don't get the whole "ask people for advice then get mad when they give you a dose of reality" mentality.
There have been several times when folks have given me advice that I was NOT too keen on..but I dont lash out on people b/c of it.
I have a "friend" who is always hyper-extending himself for other people. But when he does and they shit on him, his feelings get hurt. OR when he does stuff for them, he ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS finds a way to throw it back in their face.
My question is...why bother? Why bother to do things for people if at the end of the day, you're not going to do anything BUT complain about it? Now let me correct myself...I am in NO way saying that you should not do for your fellow mankind. What I am saying is that if you're going to put yourself in the position to HELP, dont sit up and bitch about it. Play your position and keep the shit breezing.
Further, why call yourself lending a helping hand to folks if you're only going to mumble under your breath that your little feelings are hurt b/c they didnt respond in the way that you wanted them to?
Listen, I am all for helping folks out when they need, if at all. I really am. I have done a ton of shit for people in the past and never once will you hear me mention it to them OR out loud to anyone else. Why? I dont believe in doing that. If I do something for you, its simply b/c I felt like it should be done...PERIOD. If I put my neck on the chopping block to appease YOU, its b/c I think that you could benefit from it. Its not b/c I want some accolades from God almighty or anyone else. Im doing it b/c its within my realm of possibility. Im doing it b/c it was put in my heart to do it. But no matter what...even if you turn around and dog me out about that or ANYTHING else, I will NEVER retaliate by throwing it back in your face.
But people who do for others then complain about doing it just irk me like no other. Thats like...if you go out and donate blood...but complain about it being too long of a process, or saying that the needle prick hurt...or saying that you really DONT want to do it...but you do it anyway and COMPLAIN!
NOBODY WANTS TO HEAR THAT BULLSHIT!
I get so tired of bitches...and by bitches, I mean PEOPLE in general b/c its been proven that MEN can be bitches too!
Stop walking around here, acting like you're big shit...hyper-extending yourself for everybody and their mama...but then when someone takes you out to the wash and uses you all up to be damned, you complain about it like you didnt see that shit coming. Stop acting like you're just "returning blessings b/c you've been blessed" b/c its BULLSHIT when you do it and then literally cry about what you've done.
When you do for people, you do it b/c you want to...not b/c of any expectations in the end.
When you come to ME complaining about what you've done for this chick or that, worrying about being walked all over and I REMIND you of what YOU said, dont even THINK about getting mad at me b/c I reminded YOUR ass of shit that came straight from your own mouth.
What the hell kinda fuckery is that? Seriously.....
IMO, its bitch like...period. Point blank. DOT COM!
If you're going to do for folks, STOP BEING A BITCH AND JUST DO IT! But when I REMIND you of when and why you said you would NOT do it again, DONT GET MAD AT ME. I aint the one.....
I don't get the whole "ask people for advice then get mad when they give you a dose of reality" mentality.
There have been several times when folks have given me advice that I was NOT too keen on..but I dont lash out on people b/c of it.
I have a "friend" who is always hyper-extending himself for other people. But when he does and they shit on him, his feelings get hurt. OR when he does stuff for them, he ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS finds a way to throw it back in their face.
My question is...why bother? Why bother to do things for people if at the end of the day, you're not going to do anything BUT complain about it? Now let me correct myself...I am in NO way saying that you should not do for your fellow mankind. What I am saying is that if you're going to put yourself in the position to HELP, dont sit up and bitch about it. Play your position and keep the shit breezing.
Further, why call yourself lending a helping hand to folks if you're only going to mumble under your breath that your little feelings are hurt b/c they didnt respond in the way that you wanted them to?
Listen, I am all for helping folks out when they need, if at all. I really am. I have done a ton of shit for people in the past and never once will you hear me mention it to them OR out loud to anyone else. Why? I dont believe in doing that. If I do something for you, its simply b/c I felt like it should be done...PERIOD. If I put my neck on the chopping block to appease YOU, its b/c I think that you could benefit from it. Its not b/c I want some accolades from God almighty or anyone else. Im doing it b/c its within my realm of possibility. Im doing it b/c it was put in my heart to do it. But no matter what...even if you turn around and dog me out about that or ANYTHING else, I will NEVER retaliate by throwing it back in your face.
But people who do for others then complain about doing it just irk me like no other. Thats like...if you go out and donate blood...but complain about it being too long of a process, or saying that the needle prick hurt...or saying that you really DONT want to do it...but you do it anyway and COMPLAIN!
NOBODY WANTS TO HEAR THAT BULLSHIT!
I get so tired of bitches...and by bitches, I mean PEOPLE in general b/c its been proven that MEN can be bitches too!
Stop walking around here, acting like you're big shit...hyper-extending yourself for everybody and their mama...but then when someone takes you out to the wash and uses you all up to be damned, you complain about it like you didnt see that shit coming. Stop acting like you're just "returning blessings b/c you've been blessed" b/c its BULLSHIT when you do it and then literally cry about what you've done.
When you do for people, you do it b/c you want to...not b/c of any expectations in the end.
When you come to ME complaining about what you've done for this chick or that, worrying about being walked all over and I REMIND you of what YOU said, dont even THINK about getting mad at me b/c I reminded YOUR ass of shit that came straight from your own mouth.
What the hell kinda fuckery is that? Seriously.....
IMO, its bitch like...period. Point blank. DOT COM!
If you're going to do for folks, STOP BEING A BITCH AND JUST DO IT! But when I REMIND you of when and why you said you would NOT do it again, DONT GET MAD AT ME. I aint the one.....
I totally agree with your perspective. When you throw things in people faces that you have impacted. It takes something away from the good you have done. On another note, Jai please add me to your friend list. I have a question I would like to ask you.
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thats your opinion, so ima give mine real quick. doing something good is always good, no matter what you fell after. oneday that person who was ungrateful to you will feel that your act was unique. we cant hae poeple who accept not helping their fellow man because of emotions.im not gonna go in cuz this is not my blog and cuz i can feel your heat.
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You know what...I can REALLY relate to this as of right now! See, practically every summer, my dad's side of the family has a little "reunion" and for some reason my Grandma ALWAYS hosts the little cookout @ her house! What irks me about this is that EVERY year, she complains about how she doesn't want all these people stopping by just to take a plate home, using her inside restroom, and basically doesn't want to deal with the stress of hosting it at her house! But yet EVERY year, she continues to host the cookout/reunion at her house as if she's obligated to host for the family. I know I would NEVER do anything that my own heart wasn't in! (But let me stop ranting, lol!)
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I agree Jia..if you are going to agree to do something for someone either by way of them asking for a favor or you volunteer yourself,than just do it with No Complaints. At that moment you are being a blessing to that person but when you complain about it that blessing is taken away.
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Raheem sucks. The "music" keeps coming back after I pause it. You write extremely well. You should apply to be a columnist at eurweb.com.
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