Did Somebody Say "Hater?"
Posted by Jia at Wednesday, April 30, 2008 9:53 PM and is filed under uncategorized 
I usually do not use the word 'hater,' b/c I feel that its overused. But hell, if you have them, you just have them.
And this entry is not talking about anybody online...people like "that" dont bother me. When Im referencing a 'hater,' its someone who exists in my real, every day, I-know-their-number, they-know-mine type stuff.
I wont make this long b/c its no need. I talked to someone I hadnt talked to in a while a couple days ago..and she told me to NEVER spend more time than what YOU feel is necessary 'venting.'
But there is one particular person...ONE person who I feel just is not happy with my changes. Anytime Ive shared with her something new and positive that Im doing or something thats going on in my life that doesnt involve drama, she picks it apart. And now that I think back on a couple of other conversations that she and I had, she truly wasnt that supportive of much of anything. As long as you're worse off than SHE is, she's content.
Never again...as the author of this write up says, haters dont want to see you prosper...they always want to see you in a low position, never trying...never hoping...not giving a damn. And when things are bad, theyre the first ones there hollering some "I feel you," but when things are good...they say and do things that indicate that they arent in the least bit happy with you choosing NOT to be less than them.
With me, I love my homies...so if you're making positive moves towards a better you, I most CERTAINLY wont "hate" on that. I want all of my folks to be successes. But isnt it quite sad when others...or more specifically ONE...doesnt reciprocate those actions?
Its truly all good. I cant let them..or that...be a determining factor in whether or not I change me. I still curse, I still say Im not perfect..and still VERY MUCH SO acknowledge my past indiscretions in 'the life,'...but if your homie aint willing to give you a pat on the back b/c you're taking steps FORWARD instead of backward, then you dont NEED them in your life.
Holla
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What is a Hater
A hater is someone who is jealous and envious and spends all their time trying to make you look small so they can look tall.
They are very negative people to say the least.
Nothing is ever good enough! When you make your mark, you will always attract some haters. . .
That's why you have to be careful with whom you share your blessings and your dreams with because some folk can't handle seeing you blessed... It's dangerous to be like somebody else... If God wanted you to be like somebody else,
He would have given you what He gave them! Right? You never know what people have gone through to get what they have... The problem I have with haters is that they see my glory, but they don't know my story...If the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence, you can rest assured that the water bill is higher there too! We've all got some
haters among us!Some people envy you because you can:
* Have a relationship with God * Light up a room when you walk in * Start your own business * Tell a man /woman to hit that curb (if he / she isn't about the right thing) * Raise your children without both parents being in the home *
Haters can't stand to see you happy * Haters will never want to see you succeed * Haters never want you to get the victory. Most of our haters are people who are supposed to be on our side.
How do you handle your undercover haters?
You can handle these haters by: * Knowing who you are and whoyour true friends are *(VERY IMPORTANT!!) * Having a purpose to your life * Purpose does not mean having a job.
You can have a job and still be unfulfilled.
A purpose is having a clear sense of what God has called you to be.
Your purpose is not defined by what others think about you.
* By remembering what you have is by divine prerogative and not human manipulation.
Fulfill your dreams! You only have one life to live...when its your time to leave this earth, you "want" to be able to
say, "I've lived my life and fulfilled "my" dreams...Now I'm ready to go HOME!
When God gives you favor, you can tell your haters, "Don't look at me...Look at Who is in charge of me..." Pass this to all of your family and friends who you know are not hating on you including the person who sent it to you.
If you don't get it back, maybe you called somebody out!
Don't worry about it, it's not your problem, it's theirs.
Just pray for them, that their life can be as fulfilled as yours! Watch out for Haters...................BUT most of all don't become a HATER!
And this entry is not talking about anybody online...people like "that" dont bother me. When Im referencing a 'hater,' its someone who exists in my real, every day, I-know-their-number, they-know-mine type stuff.
I wont make this long b/c its no need. I talked to someone I hadnt talked to in a while a couple days ago..and she told me to NEVER spend more time than what YOU feel is necessary 'venting.'
But there is one particular person...ONE person who I feel just is not happy with my changes. Anytime Ive shared with her something new and positive that Im doing or something thats going on in my life that doesnt involve drama, she picks it apart. And now that I think back on a couple of other conversations that she and I had, she truly wasnt that supportive of much of anything. As long as you're worse off than SHE is, she's content.
Never again...as the author of this write up says, haters dont want to see you prosper...they always want to see you in a low position, never trying...never hoping...not giving a damn. And when things are bad, theyre the first ones there hollering some "I feel you," but when things are good...they say and do things that indicate that they arent in the least bit happy with you choosing NOT to be less than them.
With me, I love my homies...so if you're making positive moves towards a better you, I most CERTAINLY wont "hate" on that. I want all of my folks to be successes. But isnt it quite sad when others...or more specifically ONE...doesnt reciprocate those actions?
Its truly all good. I cant let them..or that...be a determining factor in whether or not I change me. I still curse, I still say Im not perfect..and still VERY MUCH SO acknowledge my past indiscretions in 'the life,'...but if your homie aint willing to give you a pat on the back b/c you're taking steps FORWARD instead of backward, then you dont NEED them in your life.
Holla
-------------------------------------------------
What is a Hater
A hater is someone who is jealous and envious and spends all their time trying to make you look small so they can look tall.
They are very negative people to say the least.
Nothing is ever good enough! When you make your mark, you will always attract some haters. . .
That's why you have to be careful with whom you share your blessings and your dreams with because some folk can't handle seeing you blessed... It's dangerous to be like somebody else... If God wanted you to be like somebody else,
He would have given you what He gave them! Right? You never know what people have gone through to get what they have... The problem I have with haters is that they see my glory, but they don't know my story...If the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence, you can rest assured that the water bill is higher there too! We've all got some
haters among us!Some people envy you because you can:
* Have a relationship with God * Light up a room when you walk in * Start your own business * Tell a man /woman to hit that curb (if he / she isn't about the right thing) * Raise your children without both parents being in the home *
Haters can't stand to see you happy * Haters will never want to see you succeed * Haters never want you to get the victory. Most of our haters are people who are supposed to be on our side.
How do you handle your undercover haters?
You can handle these haters by: * Knowing who you are and whoyour true friends are *(VERY IMPORTANT!!) * Having a purpose to your life * Purpose does not mean having a job.
You can have a job and still be unfulfilled.
A purpose is having a clear sense of what God has called you to be.
Your purpose is not defined by what others think about you.
* By remembering what you have is by divine prerogative and not human manipulation.
Fulfill your dreams! You only have one life to live...when its your time to leave this earth, you "want" to be able to
say, "I've lived my life and fulfilled "my" dreams...Now I'm ready to go HOME!
When God gives you favor, you can tell your haters, "Don't look at me...Look at Who is in charge of me..." Pass this to all of your family and friends who you know are not hating on you including the person who sent it to you.
If you don't get it back, maybe you called somebody out!
Don't worry about it, it's not your problem, it's theirs.
Just pray for them, that their life can be as fulfilled as yours! Watch out for Haters...................BUT most of all don't become a HATER!
Get...that...dirt off ya shoulders!
Even though I will be sad you leave the A, I know you are going to better yourself in NC. Hopefully you will be back and be ready to take Georgia over! Great post, as always.
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Beautifully said babes. And just to reitirate, the misuse of the word hater is totally outta control. Some people make you wish it wasn't a word. For some reason people have dubbed the word hater with being opinionated and that really p's me off. WTF? At any rate, haters aren't listeners so don't waste your breath. Haters are primarily spectators. So just let em' see you come out on top in the end. Then that hateration will transform into a respect for the true grind. You then help to initiate that transformation by letting haters know off rip that if you're down with me you're gonna be all the way down with me or get from round me. Smooches, Luv Ya!
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Hey Jia,
Great blog about haters. it is so crazy that people sometimes only want to be your friend when you are not making big move in your life, but as soon as you make one step forward they are trying to pull you back 2 steps by bring up the past. I think that some people just live to see people fail. It makes them feel like "a least I am doing better than her." But they are never the one trying to make any changes in there lives but quick to criticize.
Thanks for the blog,
Erin
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Don't worry about it Jia. The bible says that God will make your enemys become your footstoll so in the end they will be a help to you and not even know why. Favor ain't fair but it is necessary!
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